I remember when The Secret was all the rage. I was skeptical, but I figured I had nothing to lose by trying it out on something small. To my surprise, it worked almost instantly! That’s when I thought—why not go big? What did I have to lose?
Vision Board: A Little Cheesy, But It Works
Yes, it might sound cliché, but vision boards are fun and surprisingly effective. I remember flipping through GQ magazines, cutting out pictures, and pasting them into my sketchbook. My roommate thought I was crazy, and honestly, I did too. But deep down, I was having fun. More importantly, I was setting my intentions.
Defining the Ideal Personality
Looks aside, I wanted to be crystal clear on what actually mattered: personality. I wrote down my non-negotiables in a notebook—someone who loves dogs, is emotionally mature, loyal, and responsible. These qualities were essential to me. As a chef would say, these were the key ingredients.
Daily Visualization
I’m a very visual person, so my vision board became my anchor. Every morning, I’d look at it and remind myself that my dream partner was already on their way to me. This practice made the vision feel tangible and kept me aligned with my goal.
Loving Yourself First
I can’t stress this enough—before you attract the love you desire, you have to feel that love within yourself. You want a relationship where you feel cherished and respected, right? But what if you could feel that way now, without waiting for someone else to provide it?
Start with simple self-care rituals. In the morning, sip your favorite drink, bask in the sunshine, and remind yourself that today is going to be amazing. In the evening, treat yourself to a luxurious bath, feeling every part of you relax and regenerate. Then, ask yourself: What kind of person do I need to be to attract the love I desire?
Opening the Door to Possibilities
You’ve sent your request to the universe—now, how do you make space for it to be delivered? Unlike Amazon Prime, it won’t just show up at your doorstep! You need to get out there. Go to meetups, bookstores, hardware stores—yes, even places you wouldn’t normally go. Say yes to invitations, even when you’d rather stay in and watch Netflix. You never know where the next opportunity will appear.
Ever watched a rom-com where two people keep narrowly missing each other? Don’t be that person! Be open to meeting new people—you never know who’s right around the corner.
Patience Is Key
Some people seem to jump into new relationships right away, while others wait and wonder, When will it be my turn? But think about this: what tastes better—a rushed microwave meal or a gourmet dish carefully prepared by a chef? Good things take time.
And what about those moments of jealousy when you’re surrounded by happy couples? We’ve all been there—especially during holidays or Valentine’s Day. Instead of resenting them, shift your mindset. What if the universe is showing you a sign that you’re next? Get used to the idea of people being jealous of you one day!
Creating Space for Love
Before I met my husband, I was actively dating, hoping each new person would be the one. But dating can be exhausting, and sometimes, you just need a break. Instead of feeling frustrated, I learned to embrace the downtime. I shared my experiences with trusted friends, released my emotions, and reflected: What did I learn from this experience?
Have you ever considered that your future partner might be going through their own growth journey right now? Just like in the movie One Day, where Emma loves Dexter but he isn’t ready yet—sometimes, the timing just isn’t right. (Okay, maybe that’s a bad example given the ending, but you get the point!) The space in between is an opportunity for both of you to grow into the people you’re meant to be.
My love story
So, when did I finally meet my husband? Through a dating website. Yes, even back then, online dating came with ghosting, unanswered calls, and disappointments. But everything I shared above—these are the lessons I learned firsthand. And I hope they shorten your waiting time.
Now, after 10 years of marriage, I won’t pretend it’s been perfect. There have been ups and downs, but through it all, we’ve grown together. And in the end, it’s all worth it—because love, real love, is something you absolutely deserve
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